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The Beginning of Happily Ever Housewife
You are probably wondering, what exactly is “Happily Ever Housewife”’? Let me explain!
In January 2020, I returned to my 23-year old teaching job, and happily resumed delivering lessons to my eager 5th graders! I was not really satisfied with my career choice, but it was supporting me and my son, and I was pretty good at it. This meant I didn’t have to WORK AT IT, to be somewhat successful. I had been separated from my son’s father for about 14 years, and I had been maintaining a decent life for us. Then, the pandemic hit!
A national shut-down landed me at home, teaching from my computer, and feeling pretty lonely! (My students really kept me company!) Their attendance began to slip, and most days, I was teaching to 10 or less students. I thought I needed a companion, so I started a profile on a dating app. I wasn’t sure about what to expect, but WOW! Within about two weeks, I was talking back and forth with a genuinely sweet guy!
Long story, short, we began dating, and that same December, he proposed to me! During our dating months, we spoke a lot about marriage, and the thought of me leaving my job and my family to move out-of-state with him. I was terribly nervous about this, as I had been my own source of income for “ever”! I could not fathom what it would be like leaving my job as a teacher, bread-winner, productive, independent single-mom. He reassured me that we would be fine, and he would support whatever choice I would make about employment.
We married the following October, and I made the “big moves”. I left my teaching job, bought my son a house, and packed up my life to move to a totally different state with my new husband! Since school had ended in May, I had experienced a lot of uncertainty, but once I moved in October, things became much more real! I began to experience a fairly uncomfortable feeling. I had been a teacher for 24 years, and I had co-owned a dance studio for 28 years. I started to feel powerless, unproductive, talentless, and even somewhat worthless. With the training I had gained in the education scene, I began to investigate options for working from home. “There must be other women who are in the same position as I am,” I thought to myself. Maybe I should begin a blog which would allow me to express my feelings, and others could read and relate to me? Maybe I will be able to help housewives everywhere who are struggling in a similar way?
As a writing teacher, I knew I had a gift in this area, and I always wanted to start a blog. I just never knew what my niche could be. “What would I even write about? Would anyone even read it? What if I’m wasting my time?” It was because of this fear and these thoughts that I never did pursue my dream of writing for many years. But now, I truly had nothing to lose!
It. Was. Perfect! I cannot even explain the excitement that flowed through me and the feelings and thoughts that started flowing through my head! I wanted to share with family and friends little glimpses of my married life, for other women to find encouragement and honest advice when searching for answers to the uncomfortable feelings they might have about their worthiness in their new marriage. I wanted to create a space for other women to find encouragement and inspiration, to read about the journey of a newlywed and former mom in the workforce, who found herself feeling a little unproductive, unpurposeful, and lost.
So “Happily Ever Housewife” was created, a blog where I could write and share about my path towards marriage, this crazy new adventure of being married to my best friend, and about finding my purpose in our relationship and our life! It is a place where other women can learn or relate to, and see that they are not alone.
So this is me. Hi, my name is Tonya, the wife behind “Happily Ever Housewife”. Follow me, as I turn the page and begin the next chapter of my life, and I’d love to be a part of yours, too.
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